Hearing the words “You have cancer” can be the scariest words a person can hear. I know. I heard mine in 2006 and it changed my life forever. Having a counselor who specialized in cancer was a huge benefit to me as I tried to process the myriad of emotions flooding through my mind and body. As I recovered and continued to work with this counselor I changed the course of my life from business and science, to a mission of helping others who are facing devastating illness or even death. I understand much of what you are feeling and can help. I am also here to offer support to family members and loved ones who are experiencing their own set of emotions, fears and hopes. Together we will help you through this.
Alcohol and Other Drugs
Perhaps you are feeling like you are drinking a little too much or other people are telling you “to take it easy.” Or maybe you find yourself making up stories to justify taking that extra pain pill, or two. Does life sometimes feel just a bit out of control or disappointing? I know those feelings. 35 years ago I found myself drinking before the party, then well after everyone went home; then just a little shot of Kahlua in my morning coffee; or getting a really bad headache that might be relieved with a couple extra codeine pills; ultimately wondering how my car ended up parked on the front lawn.
Perhaps today you are able to control how much you drink or use and how often and maybe you are just having some concerns. The fact is that usually our drinking or drug use is just one symptom of some ongoing issues. If you are looking for answers to similar experiences or even very unique ones, there is a solution and recovery is possible. Mindful Therapy is a great place to start.
Depression is treatable. Depression affects people in different ways. It is a real illness and if you have depression you are not alone. It is not a character flaw or a sign of weakness. Depression has many symptoms, including physical ones. If you have been experiencing any of the following signs and symptoms for at least 2 weeks, you may be suffering from depression:
- Persistent sad, anxious, or “empty” mood
- Feelings of hopelessness, pessimism
- Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, helplessness
- Loss of interest or pleasure in hobbies and activities
- Difficulty concentrating, remembering, making decisions
- Difficulty sleeping, early-morning awakening, or oversleeping
- Thoughts of death
- Appetite and/or weight changes
- Restlessness, irritability
- Persistent physical symptoms
Mindful Therapy is the place to begin to be honest. The overarching goal in most any therapy includes feeling happier and more effective in your life. These changes happen in the context of a respectful working relationship between client and therapist. I will collaborate with you to identify and set specific goals and together we will work toward meaningful change to reduce your symptoms of depression.
Are you one of those people who worries about everything? Is your mind constantly racing, usually in circles and very often with negative ideas? I can help you learn new ways to redirect or rechannel that chattering mind. Many of us never really learned the skills needed to calm an overactive mind. That is what Mindful Therapy is all about. We will help you learn skills that work for you. Learning how to live your life with intention, purpose and presence is difficult but worth every second we put into it. My job is to help you create more of the life you want to be living, free from that constant negative chatter.
People enter therapy for any number of reasons. The motivation to seek help often reflects three fundamental features: you are facing a tough life challenge, your typical ways of coping aren’t working any longer, and you are in pain.
Therapy offers you the chance for lasting and meaningful change, to transform your experience in such a way to live a richer and more rewarding life.
I believe that we all have an innate aptitude for growth, and therapy is a place for you to access this potential. A positive therapy experience will provide you with the safety and respect to explore your experiences and feelings, to gain new awareness and insight about yourself, and develop new skills.
You may wonder Can I change? Or Can you help me? These are common and fair questions to ask. Because finding a therapist who is a good fit is of utmost importance, I offer a free 30 minute initial consultation. Together we will assess your situation, chart a course for how we might work together, and you will have the time and place to ask any questions about therapy and about how I might help you achieve your goals.
Groups can be an effective way to learn new skills and connect with other people who are experiencing similar emotions or situations. I am an experienced facilitator using Dialectical Behavior Therapy for building and developing skills in emotion regulation, distress tolerance, mindfulness and interpersonal effectiveness. Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction is another group that helps reduce pain and anxiety using mindfulness and gentle yoga moves. Ask about groups that might be beneficial for you.
Couples counseling isn’t just for couples experiencing trouble. In fact, many therapists say that going early on ― and continuing to go ― can help spouses stay happy and in love. Learning effective ways to communicate and to listen are key ingredients for a healthy relationship. To learn to identify and ask for what you need and to learn to listen to your partner are not skills most of us come by naturally, it often takes effort and practice. I help each person to grow and become more aware of habits or ways of thinking that may not be fostering love and support in a partnership so new ways of being might become available.